Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda

Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda

“While playing it safe may appear to prevent failure, in reality it guarantees it.”
– Alan M. Webber

One day, God willing, you will be 85 and quietly asking, “Did I enjoy the ride?” You have to be brutally honest with yourself because you can’t hide behind excuses anymore, it doesn’t fly.

The bottom line is that you can now see the end much clearer and you now realize that many choices you made could have been different.  We say, “If only I knew then what I know now,” but that’s not how life works. You just can’t go back.

It’s not so much about the choices we make in life that really matter, it’s how we feel about those choices.

It’s not too late to change course, no matter what age you are.  It’s not too late to start following the beat of your own drummer, no matter how different it beats from others.  And it’s not too late to work on your dreams instead of working on others.

You know what’s right for you; follow it without regret.

Everything begins with a plan.

Everything begins with a plan.

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.”
― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry>

There are good, solid, productive, and profitable plans, and there are weak, destructive and heart breaking plans. Whether your plan is built deliberately through a thoughtful and detailed procedure or through a moment of enlightenment or recklessness, there is a plan behind everything you do. There may be no evidence of it and it may be difficult to believe that a plan exists behind your behavior but a thought or two, at minimum, was behind your genius or your madness.

The trick to a better life is to plan better. The trick to planning better is think about a future you would like for yourself. Once a desired future can be seen inside your head, breaking it down is your next step. What  would it take to make it a reality? What needs to change in your life? What steps must be done before you can move forward?  To realize the pieces of that wanted vision is the part that most people struggle with.

It sounds difficult but it doesn’t have to be. There is help if you ask. There are guides and teachers and examples and mentors and books and clues. Everywhere you turn, someone is willing to help you achieve your plans and goals and dreams.

What do you want? What does it take? It’s as simple as seeing a brighter future.

Reflections of You

Reflections of You

“You are not where you are from, you are where you are going.”
― Madisen Kuhn

It is said that you are, more or less, like the five closes people in your life. Who do you spend the most time with? Surprise, that’s you, basically.

It doesn’t have to be you, but changing who you are requires changing those who you are closest to.  I’m not saying that you need to eliminate certain people from your life necessarily, just that you may need to limit the time you spend with them; if they are not up to your new standards.

To be successful, you need to be around successful people. You need to learn from people who have been there. Friends and family are very important to your health and well being but they have a strong influence on what you do with your life. Good or bad, they have an affect on you. Think about that next time you spend quality time with less than desirable people.

Knowing yourself, who you are today, is as simple as looking around at the people you hold close.

If this is not the you you want to be, it might be time to make a change. Spend your time with those that help you be all you want to be.

Finally, A Decision

Finally, A Decision

“Life will either shrink or expand based on your decision to have courage.”
— Shannon L. Alder


What is the best decision you can make right now under these circumstances you are currently facing? Your best will probably fall short from the best possible decision that can be made.

But that’s ok. In fact, making good decisions takes practice. Like most things in life, the more you do it, the better you get at it.

The important thing here is to MAKE A DECISION! Take a stand. Join a side. If picking one over the other turns out to be the weaker choice, learn from it and move on gracefully. It’s not the end of the world; it’s quite the opposite. Every time you decide for yourself instead of giving that power away to someone else, you strengthen your decision making abilities. It’s a muscle that needs exercising. It’s a habit that needs developing. Choosing wisely takes time and practice.

It also takes courage and humility. You may look like a fool at first but you will look confident and strong with time.

When you realize that you did choose poorly, admit it, accept it, and get ready for the next one. Relax, pick something, feel good about it, and watch yourself grow.